Amar Makruf Nahi Mungkar.

Assalamualaikum :)

As everyone knows, as a Muslim we have the responsibility to always remind our brothers and sisters. Stop them from doing something bad and encourage them to do something good.

But macam mana pun, you have to do it the right way. You don't simply go to someone and tell them "Hey stop doing that it's sinful". Well if it's your close friend then it might be okay cause you definitely know them well. But if that's just a stranger whom you met at the pavement, I doubt that person will accept it nicely. They'll be like "WHAAT?"

To spread good things and put a halt to bad things you have to use the right ways and say the right words. Another bad example would be talking bad things, or being sarcastic to people who commit sins like not wearing tudung. I saw this one thing "Ni pakai sexy nak pergi mana? Neraka?" It is true pakai sexy tu haram berdosa. But who are we to say that they're going to hell? And if you're that person, instead of rasa bersalah dan berdosa, she'd feel offended and sakit hati lagi ada, kita yang berdosa.

I'm not saying jangan tegur bila orang buat salah, tapi tegur elok2 la. Instead of saying something mcm tadi tu, why don't you say something like "*point to a beautiful dress in a shop Which covers your aurat* This looks good on you! :)" like you know, say it nicely and softly.

Know why I blog about this? Cause I was offended. Very badly it hurts so much. I know I've committed a lot of sins, I'm trying to repent, I'm trying to change bit by bit. One day, a girl who hardly knows me, maybe we've known each other for years but we've just started being friends and we're not even close. She said this to me "Awak buat tu berdosa. Awak try la elakkan." until there, I was still fine. I mean, it's true that it's sinful but it's something that I'm used to, but of course I'll try to avoid it. It felt like my heart was being stabbed by a blunt knife, when she said "Kalau mak awak tahu mesti dia sedih."

And you know what? That's too much. Way beyond the limit. Not even my bestfriend, not even my siblings dared to say that to me. No one other than my aunt, who has taken care of me since birth. And who are you again? Someone whom I barely think of as a friend, someone who knows nothing about me, and you said that?

Ya Allah, only He knows how I felt at that moment. I felt like screaming to her face and tell her to shut up. But I know that'll cause a big fight, so I can only pray to Him to give me the strength to control my anger.

This is the only way of letting it out. Astaghfirullah, forgive me for all this. Janganlah Kau buat orang yang aku tegur rasa macam tu.

Amar Makruf Nahi Mungkar, do it the right way. Inshaallah :)