I'm not the type of person who cut ties and burn bridges. I always try to save a relationship once its established (which ever kind - romantic or non romantic/friendship/family love)
Somehow, couple of years ago, my friendship with one of the best friend I ever had ended. It was mostly my fault, I was insensitive and judgmental. Instead of respecting her choice to live her life differently than how I choose to live my life, I pushed her to live the way I do. And of course, eventually I ended up pushing her out of my life.
Somehow, years after that, I become more matured. I traveled, I met people of different races and cultures, different backgrounds, different beliefs and religions - despite the difference, we are all the same. We are human beings. I believe that faith/anything spiritual is something very personal, it means differently to different people.
I am proud and thankful for having Islam in my life, alhamdulillah Allah opens my heart and gave me the hidayah to be a practising Muslim. But that is for me, for myself. I wouldn't judge you if you don't pray, I wouldn't judge you if you choose to dress differently, I wouldn't judge you if you drink, basically I wouldn't judge you for doing something not morally wrong, despite it being a 'dosa' in Islam.
I believe that "being a good Muslim" is totally between a person and the God. What matters to me is you "being a good person". If you curse like nobody's business, if you talk trash, that's when I judge you. Or maybe I wouldn't even judge, I just wouldn't be bothered to even begin any sort of connection with you lol.
So now, we are good friends again, we picked up where we left off but this time without all the judgments and negativity. I am happy with the way we are now, despite people judging our friendship.We know each other very well, and I've lost her once, I won't let that happen again.
Somehow, couple of years ago, my friendship with one of the best friend I ever had ended. It was mostly my fault, I was insensitive and judgmental. Instead of respecting her choice to live her life differently than how I choose to live my life, I pushed her to live the way I do. And of course, eventually I ended up pushing her out of my life.
Somehow, years after that, I become more matured. I traveled, I met people of different races and cultures, different backgrounds, different beliefs and religions - despite the difference, we are all the same. We are human beings. I believe that faith/anything spiritual is something very personal, it means differently to different people.
I am proud and thankful for having Islam in my life, alhamdulillah Allah opens my heart and gave me the hidayah to be a practising Muslim. But that is for me, for myself. I wouldn't judge you if you don't pray, I wouldn't judge you if you choose to dress differently, I wouldn't judge you if you drink, basically I wouldn't judge you for doing something not morally wrong, despite it being a 'dosa' in Islam.
I believe that "being a good Muslim" is totally between a person and the God. What matters to me is you "being a good person". If you curse like nobody's business, if you talk trash, that's when I judge you. Or maybe I wouldn't even judge, I just wouldn't be bothered to even begin any sort of connection with you lol.
So now, we are good friends again, we picked up where we left off but this time without all the judgments and negativity. I am happy with the way we are now, despite people judging our friendship.We know each other very well, and I've lost her once, I won't let that happen again.
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